Strategies to combat bullying

For definitions of bullying see the Definitions and Jargon Busters page.

If an individual has trouble convincing people at their school that bullying needs to be dealt with, remind their head teacher that "schools have a similar duty to safeguard and promote the welfare of children under the Education Act 2002 (section 175)".

How can you tell if someone is being bullied?

How can you can help someone who’s being bullied?

If you see someone else being bullied:

If you’re being bullied right now, what do you do?

If you’re being bullied verbally, physically or indirectly by someone or a group of other people, you need to know how to deal with it.

Don't panic

Don’t panic, keep as calm as you can, and don’t worry right now about the reasons why you think they’re doing it to you. You just need it to stop as soon as possible. It’s important you understand that they do NOT have the right to make you feel miserable. It is not your fault so tell yourself this over and over. Once you stop believing this, they have won. Don’t let them!

You are not alone in this. Sadly most people have been bullied at some point in their lives.

Try talking to them

It might sound unlikely, but people who bully may not always be aware of how they are making you feel, so you could try telling them in a calm but firm manner. If there’s a gang of them, try speaking to the ringleader when he/she is alone. But if that’s impossible or if it doesn't work...

Tell someone

If you’re being bullied, you really need to tell someone: someone you feel you can trust. There is strength in numbers, even if telling someone else about it doesn&squo;t feel like the strong thing to do. You stand a far better chance of getting the problem sorted if you let other people help.

This could be a friend, your parents, a sympathetic teacher or tutor, someone in a year above you, a colleague at work: anyone who isn’t going to make the problem get worse.

Standing Up To Bullying Behaviour

Dealing with bullying behaviour.

Here are some tips you could try to reduce the immediate threat of bullying behaviour. They’re NOT a guarantee to immediately stop it all happening, but remembering them may help next time you're faced with a threatening situation.

Severe Intimidation and Violence

Dealing with extreme situations

If your case of bullying is very serious and you’re being ganged up on by people who are threatening to hurt or attack you: either now or the next time they see you, it is extremely frightening. If you’re faced with this situation, your main concern is your safety. It’s also important to try hard to make it no worse than it already is for you.

These tips won’t stop the bullying. But if it happens to you, try to remember them.

Dealing with Persistent Bullying

You do not have to put up with it. A long period of bullying behaviour can take its toll on your health, causing stress, anxiety, panic attacks and a loss of confidence. It can also impact upon your relationships and family life.

Here’s a list of steps to take in your bowls club

If You’re Bullying Someone

If you’re bullying someone, or you’re part of a group or gang who are intimidating people, then you need to realise the very real and damaging effect you could be having on someone else’s life.

Bullying is not a joke. You may think that it's just an extreme name for what you see as some harmless teasing or mucking about, but even name-calling can be very hurtful and you could be causing real, lasting distress.

Ask yourself why you do it and think about your answer.

There are many reasons why people threaten, scare or intimidate others. Some do it to get attention or to make them feel superior over someone else. Making someone else feel small will make them feel big and more important.

Others do it because they see it as a way of fitting in. They may not realise the impact it has on the other people. They may feel jealous of them. Often they pick on the person or people they know who will put up the least resistance.

It’s really important that you realise the impact of your bullying behaviour can have on people. Don’t assume they’ll get over it easily.

People who are bullied may become frightened, feel too intimidated or even to go out at all. This can make them withdrawn, lonely and rejected. Many people who suffer bullying become depressed, some even suicidal.

If you’re intimidating behaviour, name-calling and slagging off becomes violent or emotionally traumatic, the effect on your victim can last years and can cause that person real and in some cases irreparable damage.

Think about what you’re doing

Do you know why you bully people?

Talk to a friend, adult, or colleague to get help. Feel good about changing the way you act around people. You can choose the sort of person you want to be.

Training to Prevent Bullying Behaviour

NSPCC: The home learning based correspondence courses also include distance learning programmes on Preventing Bullying Behaviour. Click here for details, or visit the web-site www.educare.co.uk for further details.

Homophobic Bullying, particularly of Children

A particular type of bullying involves the victimisation of a person (which may be child) in relation to sexual orientation. Further guidance (from the Child Protection in Sport Unit (CPSU) can be found by clicking here.

Further Information

In the following table click on an underlined link in the first column to navigate to the organisation’s website. Underliined links in the second column will bring up your email client with the email address pre-entered.

Bullying Online Contains advice about bullying.
Cyberbullying and CyberMentors Online Contains advice and support about cyberbullying, particularly to young people.
Bully Free Zone Raises awareness of alternative ways of resolving conflict, and of reducing incidences of bullying. Address: Bully Free Zone, 23 Palace Street, Bolton. BL1 2DR
Bullywatch Aims to support and help anyone who is involved with bullying issues, e.g. victims, bullies and witnesses. Phone: 01454 318753. Email: bullywatch@hotmail.com
Careline Telephone counselling for anyone experiencing bullying and other problems. Phone: 0113 2302 226 (Leeds) or 020 8514 1177 (London)

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